Before I had kids I absolutely loved to get my hair done regularly; every 6 weeks or so I went for a trim and periodically highlights, in between that I was confident to colour it myself at home (yes believe it or not I am NOT naturally this blonde) and I never thought of cost, time or anything else that might hinder this routine. I had both money and time to spare for it and it was something that to me was important and something that I also very much enjoyed. I also enjoyed reading, especially when we were 1st married I would read in bed on an evening whilst Nath went off to play football, it was a perfect situation and life seems so simple wrapped in a book as oppose to the internet, yet now I am lucky to even have the time to wash my face before bed let alone read a ruddy book.
Iv’e been thinking a lot about this recently, about how its funny how SO much changes when these little people come along and something that was such an ordinary part of life before switches planes to an extraordinary treat. I think its one of my biggest personal frustrations about becoming a mum, in that I no longer always have the time to do my hair nice daily or have it maintained regular, that sometimes I leave the house looking like an absolute tramp – Not to mention the cost involved when you live in a city. I also get frustrated that there is so much I want to learn about and read and story’s I want to delve into but rarely have the energy and therefore concentration to do so. I often self evaluate and see so many of my interests put ‘on the back burner’ whilst I prioritise my kids and being a mum to them.
On holiday I read LOADS and I absolutely loved it. I rarely used my phone, didn’t take my laptop and we had no TV so there wasn’t really much else to do. It made me surprisingly happy though to lay during the day in the sun, with a book, or to go to bed earlier and sit and read for ages and not be too tired to take it in. The week we came home I headed to the library with the kids (who thought it acceptable to have a ride on the computer chairs) and checked out a couple more books that caught my eye and seemed like something I might gain a lot from.
Since then I have been making more time to read A BOOK and not just on line stuff and I am really enjoying it. I also took time on Friday to be a model for a friend training to be a hairdresser. I had some partial foils for highlights and it made me feel so happy and “me” again to be in salon with time to chat, read my book and get a bit of hair maintenance. It was certainly a treat and was only £10 (BARG) It made me feel good. I’m sure there is a way that I can do more of what makes ME happy; perhaps go to bed earlier? arise earlier? I don’t know, both of those aren’t easy for me but I would like to work out how I can make time for the things that make me happy, either way I had to laugh at how excited I was for something that used to just be my ordinary life and what a treat it was.