Ethan hit a milestone in life this week (and last) when he lost his 2 bottom teeth, and he couldn’t be more excited over it. So much so that he has chosen to hang on to them instead of letting the tooth fairy get her mitts on them! I don’t particularly like toothless pics of kids, but lets face it, they are a cringy essential from childhood.
I don’t think we ever really made a conscious decision about whether or not we would do the whole tooth fairy thing. I guess with it being an ordinary moment of both our childhoods (and such an exciting and magical thing whilst it lasted), it was a natural response when Ethan started (mid reception year of school), asking when he would lose a tooth that I’d answer with “oooh soon darling and then you can pop it under your pillow for a shiny coin”!
I never imagined that he wouldn’t buy into it!!!
I never imagined he would ponder so much on it that reason would tell him he didn’t need the tooth fairies money, because he has his own and could earn his own (or steal it was one idea he had).
And so we have had no tooth fairy visits, and we’ve had no teeth under the pillow at night in exchange for a coin. Instead he hides them in a little glasses case so she can’t find them. Its odd to me, but something we find funny too. I assumed all kids would go for the dough, but I love that he wants to be different and wants to hang onto his teeth! Well at least until he is an old man he says. He justs want me to assure him that the tooth fairy will stay away from them and know she doesn’t need them.
I do struggle a lot these days from time to time with parenting Ethan which makes me a bit sad when I see him so peaceful at night or his little cheeky smile after school. I know he likes me, and we do have a great time, but everything in between those moments is all so new for me and I am always looking for new ways to gain balance, show love to him and nip bad behaviour in the bud! It feels like a battle some days, which of course isn’t easy when you have a baby and tiredness in the mix, and some days its like we just scrape by. Some days I am surprised I didn’t completely lose it!
I find life is constantly flowing and bringing with it lots of new parenting challenges in the form of cheek, naughty words, attitude, occasional hitting me, picking on his sister and stubbornness. I at times feel out my depth with him or just simply exhausted because I really don’t know why he changed from sweet to annoying. I am clueless with how to parent him at 6 because I only just got used to parenting him at 5! Just like how I adjusted to parenting a school boy, and then he was suddenly in Year 1. Every step is more like a leap and I am stood wondering how to handle it. At times I even wonder if I know him well enough, because things don’t seem to get through and it saddens me and frustrates me daily. He also screeches in a very annoying manner which simply put – drives me nuts!
I wish on these days that I knew how to handle it all and that I felt more in control. I wish I knew how to get more cooperation and have less shouting going on between us. But then I guess its just an ordinary stage of life, like losing his teeth is at this age. I know its all normal, its just hard too!
I do adore him and his sweetness, as well as his funny behaviour and little quirks (like this whole response to the tooth fairy). And despite the struggle for me in figuring him out with each new stage of life, I know I should be grateful for the goodness inside of him. He helps me with Alice, is a great friend to Megan and sets the table most nights. He likes to be given responsibility and knows what he wants, and his rejection of the tooth fairy and obsession with losing teeth in general is a great lesson to me that he is an individual who is breaking the mould.
He is pretty cool and for now he still happy to be my little buddy. Whilst a challenge, it is also a blessing that he knows his mind and is mostly confident in his choices. He likes things a certain way and is happy, and for that I am pleased. I guess overall I can’t help thinking he is pretty mint, which I am sure all parents think when they look into the faces (even toothless ones) of their kiddies! So whilst annoying and trying some days, he is mine.
Linking up with Katie @mummydaddyme for #ordinaryMoments